Month: May 2017

8 Signs Your Teen May Be Thinking About Suicide

How to deal with a suicidal teen?

Teen suicide is one of the most common ways children are being killed. There has been several cases where children have even committed suicide via social media live and with movies like 13 Reasons Why; a tragedy where a young woman takes her own life because of overwhelming hopelessness and frustration with family, friends and community. Teen suicide is becoming more of a trend lately.

Learning more about what might lead a teen to commit suicide may help prevent future tragedies, it’s always a good idea to stay and be informed to help a troubled teen.

Signs of teens who are thinking about suicide might:

  1. Talk about suicide or death
  2. Give hints that they might not be around any longer
  3. Talk about feeling hopeless or feeling guilty
  4. Pull away from family and friends
  5. Write letters, songs, or poems about death, separation and loss
  6. Lose the desire to take part in favorite things or activities
  7. Change in eating or sleeping habits
  8. Engage in risk-taking behaviors

 

3 Ways a parent can help a suicidal teen

  1. Watch and Listen
  2. Ask Questions
  3. Seek professional help

How can we help?

Montville counseling center offers therapy sessions for both family and individuals dealing with a with a suicidal thoughts. We also offer a FREE 30 min look me over session. Call us now (973) 331-0043

5 Reasons Your Child May Be Stressed

How do you know if your child is dealing with stress?

 

Adults tend to view the world and life of child as happy and carefree. After all, what responsibilities does a child have to deal with in order to have a possible worry in the world?

We rarely know when our child is feeling stressed and why.

 

Source of Stress

  1. Overwhelmed with activities such a sports and other extracurricular activities
  2. World news
  3. Illness
  4. Death
  5. Divorce

 

Signs of Stress

  1. Mood swings
  2. Acting out
  3. Changes in sleeping pattern
  4. Bedwetting
  5. Stomachaches and headaches
  6. And more

 

How to reduce your child’s stress

 

  1. Proper rest and good nutrition
  2. Quality time
  3. Expressing interest in your child’s activities
  4. Reassurance
  5. Open forum discussions

 

How can we help?

Montville counseling center offers therapy sessions for both family and individuals dealing with a with stress. We also offer a FREE 30 min look me over session. Call us now (973) 331-0043

10 Ways To Help Your Child Deal With Losing A Loved One

How do I help my child deal with death?

 

Adults are more equipped in life to deal with a death than a child. However, children grief in different ways. How a child deals with the loss depends on their age, and their relationship with tha person.

 

Here are 10 ways you can help your child deal with losing a loved one:

 

  1. When breaking the news of a death use simple clear words
  2. Listen and comfort your child
  3. Encourage your child to express their emotion through words
  4. Tell your child what to expect during their grieving process
  5. Talk about funeral and rituals
  6. Give your child a role during the funeral or ritual with the option to partake
  7. Help your child remember the person
  8. Respond to emotions with comfort and reassurance
  9. Help your child feel better
  10. Give your child time to heal from the loss

 

How can we help?

Montville counseling center offers therapy sessions for both family and individuals dealing with a loss of a loved one. We also offer a FREE 30 min look me over session. Call us now. 

5 Ways To Help Cope With The Loss Of A Child

How do I cope with the loss of a child?

 

5 Ways to help cope with the loss of a child

 

In recent events, there were 22 innocent children killed during a Ariana Grande concert in Manchester. Although this devastation was considered an attack of terrorism there are hundreds of children dying everyday. Over 57,000 children under the age of 19 die every year in the US. There are several reasons for the increase in children deaths, the most common reasons are due to gun violence, suicide, illnesses, miscarriages, stillborns etc.

 

How does a parent grief the loss of a child? The lost of a child can be the most devastating death a parent can experience. Many grieving parents will question what could they have done differently to prevent this event from happening to their child. A parent that is coping with a death of a child will go through many different emotions including isolation, loss of appetite, anger, depression, guilt etc.  

 

While some people grief differently, a grieving parent will often feel alone during their grieving period. Friends and relatives are often at loss for words and are unable help comfort a parent who is coping. Therefore, it is important for a grieving parent to seek professional help to cope with their loss.

 

How can I help myself:

 

  1. Keep a journal – that allows you to put down your emotions and releasing all that you are thinking and feeling
  2. Talk about your child – this may be painful, but it will help you heal
  3. Spend more time with family and friends – this will help provide a support system
  4. Join a support group – bereavement groups are great to connect and express yourself to individuals who have gone through the same experience
  5. Seek therapy – if your grief is becoming too difficult to handle seek professional help

 

How can we help?

Montville counseling center offers therapy sessions for both family and individuals dealing with a loss of a child. We also offer a FREE 30 min look me over session. Call us now (973) 331-0043

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What is Sexual Orientation?

The term sexual orientation is used to describe your emotional, romantic, and sexual attraction. Sexual orientation does not correlate to the race in which you are attracted to. Sexual orientation is not limited to only being a attracted to the opposite sex but also to the same sex.

Here are a few sexual orientation

Heterosexuality – attracted to the opposite sex

Homosexual – attracted to the same sex

Bisexual – attracted to member of either sex

For years the only sexual orientation that’s been known is heterosexual. We now live in a modern world where sexual orientation isn’t limited by one preference. People now have their own personal preference when it comes to sexual orientation. Whether there preference is accepted in our society is another story.

 

Montville Counseling Center offers therapy sessions to provide guidance and tools to live a happy and healthy life. We offer a FREE 30 min look me over session to start! Call us now (973) 331-0043

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What’s the difference between Sex and Gender

The terms sex and gender has been used interchangeably for years, but now in our modern society sex and gender are defined differently. Do you know the difference between sex and gender?

The sex of a person relates to biological differences between and male and a female. For example, males and females have different genitalia, both internal and external. As well as the level and type of hormones in a male and female body is different based on their sex. As for gender is often a socially constructed characteristics of a male or female in which society categorize as the norms. The roles between the two groups are adhered to things such as what is expectable or consider the norm.

For example: We often associate a boy with the color blue and girls with the color pink. We are told that girls like to play with dolls and boys like to play with cars. These are examples of society associating our sex with our gender roles. But what if our gender roles do not match our sex? Is Jane consider different because she prefers to wear the color blue and play with cars? Is Tom different because he loves the color pink and prefers to play with dolls? Transgenders are constantly faced with these kinds of challenges.

If we can take the time to educate ourselves with the meaning of these terms, we can grasp a better understanding of transgender people and the struggles they face daily when trying to be accepted in a world where they are told there cannot be.

Montville Counseling Center offers therapy sessions to provide guidance and tools to live a happy and healthy life. We offer a FREE 30 min look me over session to start! Call us now (973) 331-0043

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How To Support A Transgender Child – 6 Ways To Support A Transgender Child

Transgender children face many challenges from not only the world around them but sometime from their parents and loved ones. Children facing these struggles will feel isolated, rejected and even become suicidal. As parents we must prevent these struggles as best as we can. No matter where your child is in their journey it is important to support and embrace them without rejecting or being overbearing. Here are 8 way to help support your child’s journey.

 

  1. Accept your child’s Identity – the very first step to supporting your child is acceptance. Your child maybe different but that’s okay, continue to love and support your child. This journey can be a difficult one for your child but your love and support will comfort your child most.

  2. Follow your child’s lead – listen to your child about what being transgender means to them. Don’t assume your child wants to transition, wear certain clothes, behave certain way etc.

  3. Learn about Gender – Understanding the difference between sex and gender pay help you have a greater understanding of transgender.

  4. Don’t misgender your child – never misgender your child even if you prefer your child’s old name or question he/she new identity. Doing so is a form of psychological abuse. If you so happen to do accidently so apologize.

  5. Don’t make gendered assumptions –  although your child identifies themselves as a different gender does not mean they will take on all the stereotypes of that gender. Your child is still an individual, let your child lead the way and show you what their new gender means to them.

  6. Don’t Assume Transgenderism needs treatment – Being transgender does not mean your child has a mental illness and needs to see a therapist to help cure the illness. However, therapy can help both you and your child to cope with the challenges faced during their journey.

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We are taught all of our lives to be ourselves, yet how can we be ourselves if we are not accepted for who we are? Contrary to belief, society only accepts us if are what is considered to be the ‘norm’ or normal. Transgender discrimination is one of many discriminations that occurs in our society.

 

Transgenders are referred as someone who sense their gender differs from what would be expected based on the sex characteristics with which they are born. There are a number of theories exist to explain why some people identify as trans such as early experience, unusual hormonal experience, being born with ambiguous genitals, identifying as intersex, and gender roles so many children are forced into may play a role.

 

Given the pressure fitting into a group society has formed, transgender’s often try to conform by transitioning physically and socially in ways they feel are congruent with their identity. Often resulting in physical procedures, changes in the way one dresses or even behaves. There are so many transitions transgender experiences it can certainly take a toll on their mental state.

 

It’s important for those in the transgender community to have a support system that allows them to discuss and work through their inner battles after gender or sex discovery, physically transition, and given the rampant discrimination and misunderstanding of transgender. We accept you as you are here at Montville Counseling Center.

Montville Counseling Center offers therapy sessions to provide guidance and tools to live a happy and healthy life. We offer a FREE 30 min look me over session to start! Call us now (973) 331-0043

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