Couples Counseling and Coaching

When do Couples Need Couple Therapy?

Couples Counseling and Coaching



asian coupleCouples therapy can be the bridge that helps all types of couples ― married, unmarried and same sex — better understand each other so they can communicate in a healthier way. Many couples feel they may need couples therapy for those little relationship bumps in the road. And sometimes couples need relationship help when they are taking an unexpected side detour into uncharted dangerous territory. Couples therapy can help them navigate their way back to smoother terrain.

It may be time for couples counseling when there are setbacks such as trust is broken in the relationship by infidelity, escalating anger over out of control spending of one partner, a partner escaping into television or computer addiction, sexual or intimacy issues, lack of communication or simply no communication at all.

Unexpected external influences like job loss, chronic illness, caring for a sick or aging parent or conception problems and infertility issues can contribute added stress to a couple already suffering from ineffective communication.  These hardships in life can send a relationship into a tailspin. Training from a qualified therapist on how to effectively communicate can keep the partnership strong during these unforeseen trials that usually happen at some time in a relationship.

Relationship counseling can help you get your balance back as you work out your issues with a qualified therapist. A healthy relationship is usually not a “perfect relationship.” Knowing the areas of compromise in your own relationship that feel right to you is helpful in building a stronger foundation.

Sometimes there is a feeling of guilt or even shame about “talking about” one’s life partner when entering into counseling. Understanding that an honest and open dialog about your true thoughts and feelings will be the pathway to communicating with each other ― is imperative to the success of your counseling sessions. It’s often a good idea to first seek individual counseling to work through your own individual and private feelings and sort them out before joining your partner in couples counseling.

Therapy can help you to understand each other’s perspective and discover a middle ground to find a way back to each other. Learning how to deal properly with conflict can help you to grow in your relationship, which helps in other areas of your life as well.

If you’re feeling that you only need some communication guidance or a “refresher” for you and your partner to reconnect with each other, then “couples coaching” may be the answer for you. You may discover after a few sessions that your relationship with your partner is more alive and well than you had thought ― and you may decide to stop your sessions at that point.
Or you may decide, after couples therapy, that the differences with your partner are too great to reconcile. A skilled therapist will help you to figure it out so you can decide what the best next move is for you andyour relationship.

If you’re wondering if counseling will work ― you should know that couples who get the most out of therapy are open to counseling, as well as change ― and they don’t wait too long to get help. And couples “coaching” and counseling is covered by most insurance plans.

Call us today and talk with a caring couples counselor to discuss how you and your partner or spouse can get your relationship to a connected and healthy place.

Montville Counseling Center is your court-approved advocate in domestic violence counseling for victims and perpetrators of violence. If you or someone you know has been instructed by the courts to have qualifying domestic violence or anger management counseling, please contact us to schedule an appointment.

We participate with Employee Assistance Program (EAP) for all types of counseling problems. An EAP is a benefit offered by some employers to their employees and their family members to help resolve personal issues with professional and confidential counseling services. Check to see if you’re covered by your employer with this benefit.

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